Love changes, evolves over time
February 14, 2013
I remember there was a time when I didn’t want a relationship. I mean single life is great, no one to worry about but yourself. Then time goes by (a long time), and you think, “Hey, I want what they have,” as you stare at the perfectly adorable, stereotypical couple holding hands crossing the street, or walking to class.
Ever notice that the people we fall in love with, never seem to love us in return? It’s the people we least expect, and sometimes don’t notice at all that love us.
There is a girl that I’ve been a good friend with for quite awhile and she used to describe falling in love with someone like this:
“Every time you start to like someone, his or her flaws just disappear. The perfect places to kiss are where those birthmarks lay. Those two awkward hands somehow seem to fit perfectly together, and what people say doesn’t seem to matter anymore. That moment when you decide to give someone your trust, that is when you turn blind to love.”
Now I know that most people say similar things to the statement above, but it’s true isn’t it? It’s the scariest thing when you realize how much someone means to you. When it really hits you, that’s when all the questions and scenarios rush through your mind.
Someone that was once a stranger, you know like your favorite book. Someone you once had no emotions for, has the power to break your heart.
Someone you never hung out with now consumes most of your time. Someone you never thought you’d love now owns your entire heart. Someone you once lived without knowing, you now wish to hold onto forever.
So as that spring weather approaches let us all who are single not be quick to judge, or get down about ourselves because your perfect person is out there.
My theory is, that if you haven’t met, “the one” yet, it’s OK because we are all still young and have our whole lives ahead of us. Enjoy being you, and when that person comes knocking on your door, hopefully you’ll be ready!
If you are in a relationship, remember to keep that public display of affection (PDA) to a minimum, there is still a whole campus watching your every move and to some it could be unsettling to some while trying to sip down their coffee.
However, when you’re in love, it should bring out the crazy side in you and you should feel OK with being yourself. I’m not here to judge, but when you love, make sure you love with everything in you.
Valentine’s Day just ended, and somehow that “holiday” tends to lead people to trip over their feet for others. I guess though, that when you are attracted to someone, it’s because of the details. Their kindness, their eyes, their smile, even their scent.
So as we all trip over our crushes this spring, just remember something that F. Scott Fitzgerald once said, “There are all kinds of love in this world but never the same love twice.”
Lastly, if you get your heart broken from a relationship you thought could have been or was but only for a little while, don’t get too down because moving on is the best thing you can do for yourself, and mama did say there’d be days like this.
Miranda Hammel is a journalism major. She enjoys reading, writing, listening to music, and being active outdoors.