We have all had it happen to us at one point or another. Maybe you have even been the person to instigate it. We have all gotten that friend request on Facebook from a person we either don’t know or don’t want to add. This can be a tricky situation to deal with. Fortunately, I am here to give you some tips on how to either kindly defriend someone or not even add them in the first place.
It’s always a thrill when you log into Facebook and see a new notification, message, or friend request. For the few seconds it takes for you to click away the bright red number, you are in a state of excitement wondering what great notification awaits you. Then all your hopes and dreams are crushed when you click and see you have a friend request from someone you either don’t know or don’t want to accept. Now you are at a crossroads. Do you add this person risking the fact that they will, by any means possible, try to talk to you every day and comment on all of your pictures and status updates? Or do you deny the request and risk them friending you again and again until you accept, or have them message you inquiring as to why you are not friends? Let’s face it no one wants that hassle.
Fortunately there are ways around this. If you are a nice person and add them, there can be ways to get them off of your Facebook. And even better, it can be done in one wall post. Whether you know this person or not, a simple “who are you?” post may be enough to make them think twice about wanting to be your friend. However, this subtle way of telling this person off may not work on everyone. If they try and try to explain who they are and why you should be friends, you really only have one option left: block them. Sure, it is a brutal thing to do, but if they persist on why they should be your friend, they will most certainly try to re-add you if you simply unfriend them. Blocking them completely eliminates this problem and you will never see them in Facebook world again.
Another tricky situation is when you don’t want to be someone’s friend anymore, but you don’t want to hurt their feelings by unfriending them. Your best bet here is to be sneaky. In all likely-hood you will have more than one friend who you want to unfriend on Facebook, other than the one who you really want gone. Just eliminate all of the friends you don’t want in what is called a “friend-purge.” Most of the time if someone is unfriended, they will get the hint and not try to re-friend you. However, if one of your former friends tries to re-add you, just accept it and say something along the lines of, “oh, sorry, I deleted a bunch of friends and you got caught in it.” Or something like that. They will be satisfied. Then a few weeks later just unfriend them again; they will get the hint then.
Now you are prepared if you get an unwanted friend request or have a friend who you just don’t want to be friends with anymore. Hopefully, you will never have to resort to these measures, but we all know that you will. With these tips you should be able to kindly let someone down when you don’t want to be their Facebook friend anymore.
Benjamin Lamers is majoring in journalism and minoring in history. He is a huge Colts and Brewers fan.